Simple Self Improvement Technique
Self improvement can turn into an
enjoyable, rewarding and empowering activity. Look at the people around you and
watch how they behave. If you find a trait of character or a certain behavior,
which you do not like, examine yourself closely and as impartially as possible,
and find out whether you act or behave in the same way. If you do, then think
and visualize how you would like to behave in a similar situation. Then,
whenever you have the time, perform mental rehearsals of the new behavior.
Visualize yourself in the same situation, but acting in the way you want to
Think often about the importance and
advantages of a changed and more positive behavior. Tell yourself again and
again that you will remember to act differently the next time you are in a
situation or circumstances that trigger the behavior patterns that you want to
At the first attempts you will probably
forget to act as desired, but keep visualizing and thinking about the new
behavior patterns, and you will see how you gradually change.
Whenever you see people acting in a way
that brings them positive results, analyze what they are doing, their body
language and the way they are talking and acting, and try to act and behave the
same. If you keep doing so, you will soon start to see changes in yourself and
in your life.
The advantage of this technique is that
you can use it everywhere, anytime, without any prior preparations.
Furthermore, this can turn in to a pleasurable game. You can use this technique
while waiting for someone or something, while sitting on a bench in a park or
while traveling in a bus or train. You can use your time more advantageously,
instead of just letting the time pass by.
Two examples of this self improvement technique:
You see one of your co-workers acting angrily. You watch his body language and
the tone of his voice and see how people avoid him because of that. Now, look
into yourself with an unbiased eye, and find out if you are guilty of the same
kind of behavior. If you are not, that's okay, but if you are, think about the
consequences of this behavior and the advantages of acting differently. Think
how a calm and happy attitude can change your life and how people would treat
The next step is to visualize yourself
in circumstances that trigger the kind of behavior you wish to avoid, and to
see yourself acting in a new and positive manner. Rehearse in your mind, in
detail, how you would like to act, so that when you encounter this situation,
your subconscious mind will guide you to act as you visualized. Mentally
rehearsing the new behavior will remind you to act so in real life, and will
also motivate and direct you to act accordingly.
Here is another example. You enter a
shop and ask the saleswoman some questions. She is patient, calm and answers
all of your questions politely and with a smile. Her behavior causes you to
feel good and to like her, which may consequently make you to desire to buy
something from her.
Analyze the behavior of the saleswoman,
and see what you can do to emulate her. Tell yourself over and over again that
you too, are going to behave politely and patiently. Visualize yourself in
various situations that usually make you angry and impatient, and ask yourself
why you behave in that way. Then start visualizing yourself acting and talking
in a calm, polite and patient manner in your day-to-day life.
It is important to understand that
thinking and visualizing just once is not enough. You need to do so over and
over again every day, even several times a day, until you see results.
The above two examples are only meant
to illustrate how to make use of this self-improvement technique. Maintain an
open mind, open your eyes, desire to improve yourself, learn from others,
affirm and visualize, and your life will begin to change.
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